Wednesday, 13 September 2017

Tuesday, 12 September 2017

Milestones Unlimited

Hitting, spitting, throwing...our dear 17 month old is hitting milestones all over the park! As tough as that mind sound, it is fascinating to see her grow up and figure out the world around her. She is learning the art of pissing off and wooing back, flinging stuff around and collecting them, and making friends with her trademark Hi's now supplemented with Anna Akka Avva Aunty (mostly wrongly attributed, but its funny how she has figured out that sexy young women - whether on posters or in person - should be called Akka).
However, it has not been the easiest for us to bear. Our time with her leaves us stressed out, exhausted and angry. Add to it the external pressures: Is she toilet trained yet? Why is she so thin? Why do you let her sleep in the mornings? Why is she still on the bottle? Sigh! And adult life is no fun either with work pressures and traffic woes and a barely-there social life. Conscience Keeper and I were having bitter fights for the most inane of reasons - till we resolved a couple of days ago to Stay Calm and Carry On. We realized that most of the aggression that K is showing is not just a phase, but an imitation of our own juvenile behaviour. So now we are taking our own baby steps as responsible parents - using a soft voice and low tone around her, speaking politely with each other and smiling a lot.
In other things:
- We moved to a new address.
While we loved our old pad, our landlord, and the one neighbour we were friendly with - it was not the most child friendly of places. We have now shifted to an old and old fashioned apartment complex teeming with kids, and all the joys of gated community living. I can hear K playing ‌in the common park downstairs right now and it makes me happy for her (and also relieved for myself to have her out of my way for a while).
Goodbye, Old Home. Thank you for all the memories!
- K made her first stage entry
At the Ganesha Habba, K took the stage and did a little dance, surprising us all by her sudden wriggling of bottom in tune with the beat. We don't let her watch TV or take her to movies, so bum-jiggling I conclude is clearly a natural form of dance.

Ganesha Habba at Home

- Everyone's moving
Amma has moved to Mumbai, P and P have moved to the US and her parents to Attibele. My old gang of babysitters have disappeared, and left me in despair.

Some pics:
Swinging with friends - Anagha and Aashi

An attempt to potty train

An attempt to use sippy cup

An attempt to write

Rakhi celebrations

New hair clips (she never feels happy wearing those)

Chatting away

With Anya

At Pratibha's housewarming, before P and P left for the US
Aarti and Prithvi came down for a visit

K's first pani puri, as we took shelter in the rain under his umbrella


Friday, 8 September 2017

Potty training

Clearly not getting anywhere!

Monday, 31 July 2017

Friday, 30 June 2017

A holiday, and more!

A vacation, finally! I am not yet ready for an 'us-only' holiday with K, but a trip with friends was explored - and it turned out to be very doable. Anurag and Reema were visiting from Kanpur with three year old Atharva and we went to Masinagudi's good old Jungle Hut for the weekend.
We stayed in their tent house and it was warm and cozy and ideal for late night gupshup in the balcony. We took a nature trek up a hill with K and a random jeep safari one evening where we spent an hour breathing diesel fuel.
K had her first swim, saw her first tiger (strolling alongside our car while we were heading to the morning jungle safari where we didn't spot anything but peacocks and bisons), and displayed an enhanced interest in eating when on the swing. The kids did fine, chasing each other around and throwing tantrums in turn.

In other milestones
- K has learnt to get bored

- K's first swim - which thanks to a ball became bearable (It was also a memorable way for daddy and baby to celebrate Father's Day!)

- K has learnt to pray. In fact she is a talented God finder, spotting gods and godly saints in the darkest nooks and corners, doing a namo-namo/jay-jay and sometimes adding a padmasana with a flourish.

- K plays teacher at Jaya Atte's tuition class

- K has started to eat on her own (sometimes when The Mood strikes her)

- She is mighty possessive about her biscuit

- She also likes to hang out inside cupboards

- I have one willing listener to my songs, but that is about to change. K has begun to indicate with her eyes when she wants a change in song, and sometimes I have to try some 30 odd songs, before she settles.

Tuesday, 30 May 2017

Saying it like she means it

Woke up this morning - K turns 14 months - to find her wriggle out of my rather suffocating cuddle, look at me sternly and gesture NO. Conscience Keeper was asleep, so she even added a SHHH! for effect. My baby is developing a mind of her own!
We just concluded a fun trip to Pune, to attend Urvazi's wedding and also catch up with friends and their babies. Spent the weekend holiday with Sandy and Mansee, enjoying the love and good food Sandy's lovely mom heaps on us each time we visit. M's had a baby too who is all of five months  - we had to literally police K's movements else she would sneak into the baby's room to give him a hug (or use the telephone she had a huge fascination for). Our friends from Mumbai came down for a night and that was fun too. However, the long taxi rides were taxing our patience, but more so for K who hates sitting in a car, who spent her time inventing new and pretty irritating tricks to keep herself busy, the worst being spitting on our faces and practicing her whines.

Urvazi and her mom with us during a pre-wedding get together. 
Us at the wedding - my first Parsi wedding
The happy couple
Being indulged by Sandy's mom


On a high giraffe with Triv

With Aadit

With Anu and Triv

Before heading to Pune, we had a wonderfully busy time hosting people at home. Teju came to meet K a week ago, and Bonti and Aaliya came to spend a couple of days with us at Amma's home in Hosur. K is very entertained at Hosur, what with many kids in the neighbourhood and amm'a constant pampering.
With Aaliya

Soaking up the sun

Playing with Bonti Aunty

Pampered by Teju Aunty who visited us from Mumbai
This May, she also joined us to celebrate Conscience Keeper's birthday where she clapped on cue and wasn't given any cake. (Yeah, we are mean)

In other milestones...
- Many A-B-C books are being bought - however, they are so intellectual that we have saved it for K's teen years. Under pressure to toilet train K, I picked up a Potty book. K seems to love the book, now I am hoping she imbibes its lessons as well.

Once Upon an Alphabet, Quentin Blake's beautifully illlustrated ABC and Leslie Patricelli's Potty
- K enjoyed her first bus ride
KIAL bus ride from airport to Jayanagar

Learnt Dandiya steps

Helped in shopping
At Ample Store in Jayanagar

- Tied her hair in a 'juttu' with flowers

- and more flowers

- found herself a corner for some quiet reflection

... and also learnt to pray
Namo Namo, Jai Jai

Moments captured on camera

Spent a (rare) relaxed Sunday, getting all dressed and heading to Farzi Cafe at UB City for lunch (a place wasted on us vegetarians)
Nap time!

Wednesday, 3 May 2017

The FOMO syndrome

At 13 months, K now utters 'Mamma' - nothing gush-able there though because it mostly means any and every name-place-animal-thing within grabbing distance. She is forever on a lookout on what she might be missing, and her 'Mamma' is quick to come when I pick up my purse or reach for a mango. Despite my attempts to make our home child-safe, it is a constant battle to keep K in check, especially managing her peculiar interest in munching on pest control lumps pasted on the corners (mercifully, they are herbal!). So the only way to handle this is by giving her pack and play crib another twist. It now acts as a storage for our laptops, electronics and other untouchable items; also as a gate so that she can't sneak out to the balcony and chew on shoes in the shoe stand.

Double role
Protector of all things precious - including bucket!
Harini came down to Bangalore to meet K, and very quickly took over babysitting duties.

So did Shobita, who came down to join us for K's birthday celebrations on April 2.

Sushmita before moving to the US, visited us at Hosur with her parents and Bhavana. Aunty later told me she was very inspired with K's Hi's and used it at home to diffuse family arguments.
K: That's how I say hello! (to Sush's mom)

K with Sush's parents in Hosur

Sush smiling away
Sush babysits on her farewell party

The gang at Sush's farewell party

Milestones this month:

- We bought a stroller so that we could resume our running. So she now joins us in Lalbagh over weekends, mostly as a sleeping mate.

- Tackles a mega sized laddoo and makes our family proud

- Bares her teeth (she now has some)


- Gets some Self Help
"How to Overcome Mental Stress"
- Learns to share
Here's the bottles - one for you, one for me!